You Want to Be a Surrogate? But WHY?

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Though Surrogacy has made itself well known or, dare I say it, popular, still I feel that the general population wonder what motivates women to become surrogate mothers or gestational carriers. It is understood that infertile couples or singles will research all their options, surrogacy contained, but why in the world would a perfectly healthy woman want to experience a pregnancy, labour and delivery for mere strangers? (which happens in the vast majority of those cases.)
The first conclusion is cash. I would like to dispel that myth right away. A first-time carrier with her own medical insurance might qualify for compensation/reimbursements between $30,000 and $35,000. It’s illegal to’sell’ a baby, or your body for that matter, so why is money involved in any respect? This compensation is to be utilized while the surrogate is pregnant with a child to support her throughout the pregnancy. She can use it for whatever she likes but it’s allowed for insurance, food, local transportation, and basic living expenses. Other’benefits’ listed in a contract may be clothing, child care, out of state travel, home keeping and invasive procedures. Often it takes months before a surrogate becomes pregnant and even then it might take 2 or 3 IVF treatments. Any reimbursement is minimal. She quickly finds that she could make more money working in a fast food restaurant for minimum wage!
Maybe attention is the motivator? Some women enjoy being the center of attention while pregnant and as a surrogate, focus is a huge part of the journey! Not only is her own family focused on her IP’s and their family are in the picture… waiting for the big day to arrive. It’s a heady feeling and maybe one of the numerous reasons why some women become surrogates more then once.
Is it that she really enjoys being pregnant? A woman who is raising her own kids may have LOVED being pregnant yet, as much as she adores her own children, economically it is just not possible to raise a dozen or more babies… so combined with helping another couple she can enjoy the experience of being pregnant .
Maybe the reward in being a surrogate is assisting another family enjoy what she has, infants… a new creation… a branch on the family tree.
Honestly, I think it is a combination of all of the above. Any extra money that comes into a house, through surrogacy or a raise or a windfall, is always welcomed. Having the ability to help another family and enjoying all of the gratitude and rewards that come with this is a wonderful feeling… one which stays with you for the rest of your life especially if the relationship lives up to everything you dreamed it should be. Recognizing this, as a surrogate, there is a little life out there making some very special people happy is a wonderful feeling. A heady experience that, often times, makes a woman willing to carry for someone else again… and again!

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